Can someone give me pointers on getting a girlfriend?
Ok so let me start by saying that I’ve asked this before but didn’t get much help. So I’ll first describe myself for you: I’m a senior now who is one of the top students (ranked number 4 in my entire class last year), I’m black but some of my friends tell me I have a "white" personality because I’m so proper and I’m mostly into rock music. I’m like 5′10 or so, have a sort of athletic body since I played two years of track and going on my third and sometimes work out to stay conditioned, I’m artistic since I like to sketch and I’m really good at it, never drank or smoked anything in my entire life and don’t plan on it. I don’t go to church but I am a practicing christian (my choice not forced) including practicing being abstinent. I’m planning on either going to the marines or air force, not so sure yet. I’m working so it’s not like I’m a bum lol. Honestly people say I’m extremely caring and not like most guys because I always look out for others and make sure they’re happy before I think about myself. People love to have me around since I always seem to brighten their day. So yea that’s the basics of it: good in school, christian, caring, working and pretty athletic. Most of my friends (the girls lol) say that I’m like a great guy, and one of them even said I’m like the angel amoung most guys. It’s not like I’m ugly cause I get alot of compliments on how good looking I am (not to sound concedant, trust me I hate arrogence hahaha). But my biggest problem is that I always end up as the "good friend" and it’s weird. The girls say how they’d love to be with a guy like me but for some reason I’m the friend and that’s it. I tried a few things like not be such the caring guy who the girls can come to and just talk, I tried playing hard to get, and even just being upfront about liking a girl. But every time I get the same results and these common line "I really see you as a good" or "I don’t wanna ruin such a great friendship and make things awkward". And the weirdest part of all is that the women who say how they’d love to date me the most are older woman -_- so it’s pretty awkward to hear that. So can someone please help me out here? What am I doing wrong? I don’t understand how I’m this "great" guy but not good enough to be a boyfriend. So seriously any pointers I’ll definately consider because this has been happening for the last like five years and I’ve grown tired of it.
It’s because when you meet them, you just act like the friend. You have to flirt (not hitting on them, but making them feel special and pretty. Saying stuff like ‘you have adorable eyes’ or ‘you have a cute smile’), and your personality is pretty perfect, so once you draw them in with compliments (and remember not to go overboard with them, it will make you seem like you’re kissing up), then they’ll fall for your personality :]
Good luck!
And i wish there were more guys like you around here.
Is the Air Force a branch for spoilt-kids?
It’s because when you meet them, you just act like the friend. You have to flirt (not hitting on them, but making them feel special and pretty. Saying stuff like ‘you have adorable eyes’ or ‘you have a cute smile’), and your personality is pretty perfect, so once you draw them in with compliments (and remember not to go overboard with them, it will make you seem like you’re kissing up), then they’ll fall for your personality :]
Good luck!
And i wish there were more guys like you around here.
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